Past Failures Shouldn't Influence Your Future
Adopt a Growth Mindset
The past informs but does not determine your future. Reflecting on what’s gone wrong in the past and accepting mistakes is how we learn, not by ignoring them.
The magic is in the mistakes – you can learn from what hasn’t worked for you.
Be kind to yourself, take time to understand why things went wrong and generally there’s a perfectly valid reason why things happen (or don’t happen), you’re not weak, you’re just human!
Which Monkey is On Your Mind?
Professor Steve Peters (author of Chimp Paradox) has simplified the mind into three parts: the human, the monkey and the computer.
- Human Mind just wants calm – this is your “good” side
- Monkey Mind is out to create chaos – this is your “naughty” side.
- Computer mind acts on the information from Human, Monkey or sometimes a mixture of both.
Train Your Mind Monkey
To Be A Kind Monkey
It’s likely that your past failures were because your Mind Monkey was in control more often than your Human Mind.
Mind Monkeys dominate us when our instincts take over, for example when we are in fight or flight, hungry or have a low sense of self.
This is where kindness creates control by realising that you’re an amazing person and you deserve to make better choices – the kind choice is generally the right choice.
